Staying safe

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If possible, try and leave the situation as your personal safety and that of any children involved is of paramount importance.

There are things you can prepare to leave your home safely:

  • Tell somebody you trust that you are leaving
  • Have a small bag packed with spare clothes, keys, phone numbers and money in case you have to leave quickly. If you're afraid that it will be found, leave it at work or with a friend
  • Talk to your children beforehand about the possibility of leaving in an emergency if it's appropriate
  • You may want to agree a codeword or a plan with them
  • Make sure you take your children with you when you leave
  • Only leave when it is safe to do so
  • If you later discover that you have left something behind, you can arrange to collect it with a police officer - don't return by yourself
    Take some identification with you that might help others protect you from the abuser, such as a recent photograph
    Take advice regarding injunctions from a reliable solicitor

Keeping safe if you decide to stay

  • Make sure you seek some support from support agencies where you live. Click here to find details of local and national organisations
  • Let the support agencies know how they can contact you e.g. at work or at a friend's address
  • Make sure you remove all traces of contact with support agencies
  • Use the internet in your local library or internet café to avoid leaving a trace or if you log on at home, delete your computer history if you have been on their website. Click here to find our how to delete your browsing history
  • Dispose of phone records
  • Make sure you receive medical help for any injuries ensuring that they are recorded and photographed. These may be used at a later date to support court cases or re-housing applications

How to keep safe during a violent incident

  • If you are able to, dial 999 in an emergency. Try to leave the phone off the hook so that the operator can still hear you
  • If you can't dial 999, try to telephone or text a friend, relative or neighbour with a pre-arranged code word indicating that you need help so that they can call the police for you
  • Plan escape routes before you need to use them
  • If you have been injured and you have not been able to call the police, go to see your doctor or attend hospital as soon as possible